Prompt: What do you like about your Alone Self?


PROMPT: What do you like about your Alone Self?  When was the last time you spent some time with your Alone Self?

These questions lead me to tap on my soul’s door and say: “Is anyone home in there?  Where have you been?”  Wait . . . where have I been?

And then the door opens . . .

Who do I see?  What is she doing?  What does the room look like?  What is the lighting like? Is there candlelight?  Is she listening to music?  If so, who is on her playlist?  What color(s) are the walls?   Are the floors bare or are there rugs?  What pictures are hanging on the wall? Are there muddy running shoes by the door?  Are there musical instruments?  Is it some kind of laboratory with an experiment brewing — test tubes and beakers bubbling over?  Is there a snowboard leaning against the wall?  What does the hearth area look like?  Are there books and papers piled on the table?  Is it bare?  Is it set for one?  Or two?  Or more?

Just writing these questions takes me on an expedition that leads me to better understand that which makes me who I am and that which I continue to create out of my passions and interests and fancies.  My definition of fun lies in this room, and the person who opens the door has been awaiting my knock.

As I answer these questions, I take a journey into what it is I love about being alive.  It is these things that I like about myself.  I like that I light an inordinate number of candles when I am feeling stressed.  I like being able to look at my wall of vintage and unplayable mandolins, knowing that someone once made music in them before the necks became too warped to play any longer.  If you look just so, you can see ethereal notes of music past drifting out of their sound holes.  I like using my stairway leading upstairs as my filing system for my research: a step for every barely-started project.  I like seeing my collection of high heels haphazardly strewn about my closet and bedroom: this means I am wearing them.  I like laughing with my loved ones, sometimes at really inappropriate times.  I like that I keep at least two pairs of dance shoes in my truck at all times, one black pair and one red pair.   Although my kitchen may smell funny, I like making my own kefir and kombucha.

As I think about what lies within and as I enjoy what I see, I now see my soul’s room as being inordinately messy and cluttered and hodge-podgey.  No wonder I feel this way in my real life.  Wait . . . this is my real life.  And this is all good.  It adds to my sense of self and to my sense of connection to others.  It is I who has created all of this . . .  um . . . creativity.  And maybe it is time for some Spring Cleaning, but this looks like a really fun place in which to create and to be today.  To be with my Alone Self.

A few questions for you:

What do you like about your Alone Self?

What do you see when your soul opens the door?  What does it feel like?  What does it look like?

After visiting this room, what do you like even better about your Alone Self?

Blessings to you today as you explore the hidden and unseen passages to your soul’s door.  Perhaps it is along this circuitous journey where I make the biggest connections with my Alone Self.  Boosh and Bwoom!  Momentary flashes of discovery lighting my way.

Liking my Alone Self allows me to extend myself to others and make connections that I might have missed, if I am not mindful of  keeping the soul’s door open.  That is the beauty of spending time with yourself: when you return to your Others Self, you have decided if you are going to keep the door closed or prop it open with a stone.  Today, the door is flung wide open.  Bliss ensues.





5 thoughts on “Prompt: What do you like about your Alone Self?

  1. This is a very interesting question, I find this is both rewarding and sometimes lonely. I think that we all need this time to spend with our alone self and figure out what it is we like. I find that being alone at times tends to get my mind to wonder in places I don’t always want it to go, but it’s important that we see what we want others to see in us. We have to think and see we are worthy before we want others to see it. Beautiful post


    • I love what you have written here. I so agree with what you write about seeing our own selves as worthy first. Very well stated. And it is true that taking this Alone Self time does take me to places that are really quite the adventure. I am sometimes quite surprised by what I discover when I take the time to see what it is that I really want, and not what I have gotten in the habit of accepting to be true. I like the feeling of being open to new possibilities. I have a quote in my office: Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen. It is tricky to pinpoint what that “something wonderful” is some days . . . but when I spend some Alone Self time, I get a glimpse of the true picture of “wonderful” — one that is not hindered by the daily stuff. Thanks for sharing!


      • An adventure 🙂 I like that. I love quotes and I absolutely love that quote I may put that in my office too. It’s so encouraging. It’s hard sometimes to not get bogged down with the daily stuff but your quote helps to combat that struggle at least some if we can live by it.


  2. Yes! A great way to put it! 🙂 The secret for me is to keep living by it. When something comes up that instigates fear into motion, I try (!) to remember this quote. We never know when something beautiful is going to come into our lives. A “bad” thing might be the portal for something really amazing. Difficult to keep in perspective when fear is pounding at my well-being’s door! And I try to think of this as something for me to practice, rather than just read. Thanks for posting! Great thoughts!


  3. Reblogged this on The Pursuit: Being Creative and commented:
    In my pursuit of finding creativity, I have been lucky enough to find a few places so far. I found this blog and have enjoyed all that I have gotten the chance to read so far. This prompt is a perfect example of pursuing creativity. Sometimes we might need a bit of a push to get ourselves going in a creatively thinking way, but once we do, we should strive to continue that thinking. Sometimes getting to where we need to be and where we want to be with our creativity starts with us. We might need to have some alone time before we can go out and pursue what we want.


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