Confidence. What is it? Confidence is defined as “a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities” (Google: define). We read and hear a lot about appreciation. Appreciation for our blessings, our possessions, our jobs, our health, our friends, our family, our senses, our brains, our abilities. Technology, nature, transportation, travel, beauty. We appreciate others for what they do and for the joy they bring into our lives. We appreciate how they love us through those thick-and-thin moments. We reciprocate and make them coffee in the morning. We send a nice email to someone at work. We let a stranger go ahead of us in traffic. We leave a love note on the mirror in the bathroom. We kiss each other good bye each morning.
We pick up the slack on a project with a deadline. We choose to be gracious when we don’t feel like it. We laugh at someone’s bad joke. We sky-lift a worm on the sidewalk after a rain to safety. Little things.
When was the last time you paused to appreciate an ability or a quality you have? Really appreciate it. A quirk or a talent? A spot of brilliance or a burst of intuition? A kind gesture you have made that was based more on intuition than anything else? Do we even notice when we are expressing a kindness? Or do we continue to be hard on ourselves – when we might not have been exactly perfect in that instantaneous snapshot of time that we call Right Now?
We tell others what we enjoy about them or about what they do to contribute or what it is that makes them unique and lovable. It seems that this is absent on a self-level – on a level that escapes the traps and chains of egoism or conceit or narcissism. Just plain and simple appreciation.
What do you appreciate about yourself? What one little thing have you done or thought today that you appreciate? Maybe you turned a mad-attitude into an accepting-attitude. Maybe you realized that you have been offering resistance in a situation over which you have zero control. Zero. Maybe you made some pumpkin pie and delivered it to your significant other. Or maybe you gave someone a hug – someone who really needed a hug in that moment. Or maybe you told someone you love him when it just felt right in that second to say it aloud.
When we experience a moment of confidence, maybe it is as simple as acknowledging the little things that we do each and every day. Moments that assure ourselves that we are on this planet for a reason. For a good and mighty and blessed reason. I believe that there are many moments throughout the day when one has an opportunity to give a high five or an elbow bump to your little ol’ self.
Would the world be a more self-actualized place if we were kinder to our own selves? I think so.