Is there something you are doing that is causing you pain? Or stress? Or grief? Or anger? Or non-optimal health? If the answer is yes, stop doing it. Change your position. Shift into feeling good. Change now. Life really is short. There is no time for regret.
It is like when you wake up in the middle of the night and you realize that the way your arm is positioned is causing you neck pain. Your subconscious is so strong, you have been allowing yourself to sleep through it.
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Groucho Marx said it well: “Don’t let the fear of the thorn keep you from the rose.” We’ve all experienced moments in life when we have been pricked by thorns in our quest for life’s beauty and goodness. When we have taken risks and been hurt as a result of our bravery.
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We count the minutes, the hours, the days, the weeks, the years. We count dollars, cents, and credit card balances. We count the number of miles we run or bike, the steps we climb, or the laps we swim. We count calories, carbs, fat grams and the number of pounds we gain or lose. We count. And we count some more.
There are things in life we can’t count. We can’t quantify laughter or tears or the quality of our relationships. We reckon birthdays but we cannot count life. We tally up anniversaries but we cannot count the love we give and we receive. We can enumerate the number of college degrees we earn but we cannot count what we have learned along the way. We can measure the spectrum of wavelengths but we cannot count the number of colors that streak across the sky when we see a sunset or the aurora borealis.
What counts? So simple to say or to to describe or to explain . . . but it’s sometimes so tricky to keep my perspective. Real counting is an intuitive nudge. We know when something is countable when we feel that let-the-bell-toll moment. When life comes together into one brilliant episode of Hugeness.
These moments fill us full with something that we can neither count nor define. Like a bell tolling, the ringing has a roundness that reverberates through us and out into the vastness of the Universe. I consider myself lucky to have experienced such moments. They remind me to stop counting stuff and to start counting — to start making a difference — as a human being
Life. Memories. Experiences. Hugs. Encouragement. True love. Music. Integrity. Contributing. Growing. So many things that I cannot count. So many.
Making change. Eleanor Roosevelt wrote in You Learn by Living: “Do the things that interest you and do them with all your heart. Don’t be concerned about whether people are watching you or criticizing you. The chances are that they aren’t paying any attention to you. It’s your attention to yourself that is so stultifying. But you have to disregard yourself as completely as possible. If you fail the first time then you’ll just have to try harder the second time. After all, there’s no real reason why you should fail. Just stop thinking about yourself.” In other words, Just Do It.
A few things that keep me focused while flowing with change:
- As Eleanor says: Just stop thinking about yourself.
- Let your history of reward and success encourage you. Remember a time when you tried something new or different or risky . . . and it really felt great while in the process or it, ultimately, led to a really fun outcome.
- Surround yourself with quotes that inspire you to be bold. Words are powerful.
- Tape up index cards with the definitions of words like courage, brave, risk, happiness, wealth. It is always good to see such large, sometimes seemingly unattainable, words defined into smaller, simpler parts.
- Write about the journey. It secures what you are experiencing to your heart and emboldens you.
- Be happy. Tell your family and friends how happy you are while you are flowing with change.
- Don’t think outside the box. There is no box. Let yourself slip into flow mode.
- Seek the company of generous people who are happy that you are happy. Stay away from naysayers who don’t share your happiness or who feel threatened by your vision.
- When in doubt and you feel you are at a crossroads, flip a coin. By the time the coin lands you will know what you want. This works. If you still feel uncertain after seeing that head or tail or if you find yourself flipping the coin again for 2 out of 3, you will know what your preference is. Go with it and trust yourself.
- Extend love to others. It is always returned and it will guide you as you make change.
- Dissolve fear. Give it the gamma rays and zap it. Let it go. Silence it. Replace fear with trust.
- Pay attention. Always pay attention.
- Think affirmation rather than negation.
- Believe in CAN.
Eleanor also wrote: “Surely, in the light of history, it is more intelligent to hope rather than to fear, to try rather than not to try. For one thing we know beyond all doubt: Nothing has ever been achieved by the person who says, ‘It can’t be done.’”
It can be done. And it will be done if you allow yourself the freedom of choice to make change. Follow the change. Enjoy the change. Be the change.
Nothing that I have written here is new. It has been spoken, written, repeated, and recorded throughout the ages. It has been sermonized and it has been put into song. Repetition of platitudes is not the best teacher. Experience is. Embracing life is. Taking the first step is.
But I somehow seem to need the reminders. And it is empowering to foresee possibility and then feel the zing that coincides believing and knowing deep deep inside. But it involves taking a ride, sometimes on the wild and brave side, to get to the good stuff. Achieving is fantastic, but taking the ride is the true experience. Taking the ride is the change.
- Do you have any dreams that are being held captive behind locked doors?
- Who put the lock on the doors?
- Who has the key?
- What will it take for you to grab the key, unlock the lock, and swing those doors wide open?
We all have been in that place where we feel stuck. That there seems to be no forward movement in the present moment. That we feel like we are being held hostage by a series of decisions that have brought us to wherever Here is.
I have definitely found myself in this place. If I could have only seen that I was the one who was building the walls that were holding me back. I look back and think What was I thinking?! How could I have thought that that scenario was okay? And att the time, I knew that I was the only one holding me back from making a change.
But here I am today, a living testimony to my own little self to how blessings magically can appear when I am willing to muster the courage to do something different. To try something that is the complete opposite of my M.O.
- When I was silent, to speak up.
- When I was afraid, to do something brave.
- When my intuition was telling me that something wasn’t true, to believe myself.
- When I was fearful of losing the status quo, to let it all go with a smile on my face and a song in my heart.
- When I was jealous, to laugh at what I perceived to be threatening.
- When I was feeling bullied by another’s negativity, to feel the freedom and release by my own positivity.
- When I doubted myself, to believe in me.
- When I felt small, to walk tall.
- When I didn’t feel good enough, to love myself.
- When I wasn’t sure, to be me.
To be me. To choose beautiful. To believe. To err on the side of happiness. To not confuse loyalty with stupidity.
Am I beating myself up? No. Not in the least. It is good to have perspective on times that were less than fun. But today? Today is a day for speaking up. For advocating for what it is that makes me happy. For trusting others with the truth. With my truth. For believing in others kindness.
We hear it all the time: “It’s all good.” But is it? Maybe it’s not all good all the time. There are times when it is best to walk away from It’s all good and take a deep breath and try something entirely new. It’s scary, and the unknown doesn’t always feel like a benevolent companion. But it’s okay to give life a chance. To give yourself a chance.
Am I going to make more mistakes? Make more bad decisions? Probably. But I am going to keep hold of the key in my pocket and be brave enough to use it when it is time to make a change. I am going to try to remember to try doing something that is the opposite of what I am feeling or doing or thinking . . . and set off in new directions.
Love is all you need.
“The Starbucks Love Project: In one amazing moment, the world came together to sing about the one thing we all have in common: love. People from around the world sang the legendary hit All You Need is Love in a single voice on December 7, 2009 at 8:30 am EST.”
Happy Monday to all of you good people. This musical project is such a beautiful testimony to how music brings us all together. All you need is love!
And here is a journal prompt for you today to write about in your own favorite tidbit journal:
- What is one thing that you think would happen if you let love all the way in?
- If love were a color, what color would it be? And why would it be this color?
- Is there someone who might need to feel some extra love today? Who is it and what would you like to say to him or her? Why not take a few moments and share some love with this person.
I found this journal online (image and link below) with this same message of love on the cover. It seems that I can never have enough journals!
Eccolo World Traveler Journal Essential Collection, All You Need Is Love
And then I found this cute purse!
‘Ale By Alessandra Women’s All you need is love Clutch
It’s always good to keep it fresh.
- Tell someone you love them today.
- Write a quick note to tell them.
- Call or text to remind them of a story that the two of you share.
- Journal about a day that made you feel truly happy with a friend or loved one.
- Be kind and loving to your own self. When you take the time to appreciate you, you have that much more to share with others.
Wise words and beautiful music to point you in your true directions:
“To the person who does not know where he wants to go there is no favorable wind.” – Seneca
“To accomplish great things we must dream as well as act. – Anatole France
“Determine that the thing can and shall be done and then we shall find the way.” – Abraham Lincoln
“Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.” – Napoleon Hill
Happy Tuesday, good people. It is my hope that you have a day of True Directions. Follow that dream.
Please, click Play and listen to this fantastic music from Playing for Change: such beautiful people offering such wonderful music. If I watch this once, I have to watch it twice.