Making change. Eleanor Roosevelt wrote in You Learn by Living: “Do the things that interest you and do them with all your heart. Don’t be concerned about whether people are watching you or criticizing you. The chances are that they aren’t paying any attention to you. It’s your attention to yourself that is so stultifying. But you have to disregard yourself as completely as possible. If you fail the first time then you’ll just have to try harder the second time. After all, there’s no real reason why you should fail. Just stop thinking about yourself.” In other words, Just Do It.
A few things that keep me focused while flowing with change:
- As Eleanor says: Just stop thinking about yourself.
- Let your history of reward and success encourage you. Remember a time when you tried something new or different or risky . . . and it really felt great while in the process or it, ultimately, led to a really fun outcome.
- Surround yourself with quotes that inspire you to be bold. Words are powerful.
- Tape up index cards with the definitions of words like courage, brave, risk, happiness, wealth. It is always good to see such large, sometimes seemingly unattainable, words defined into smaller, simpler parts.
- Write about the journey. It secures what you are experiencing to your heart and emboldens you.
- Be happy. Tell your family and friends how happy you are while you are flowing with change.
- Don’t think outside the box. There is no box. Let yourself slip into flow mode.
- Seek the company of generous people who are happy that you are happy. Stay away from naysayers who don’t share your happiness or who feel threatened by your vision.
- When in doubt and you feel you are at a crossroads, flip a coin. By the time the coin lands you will know what you want. This works. If you still feel uncertain after seeing that head or tail or if you find yourself flipping the coin again for 2 out of 3, you will know what your preference is. Go with it and trust yourself.
- Extend love to others. It is always returned and it will guide you as you make change.
- Dissolve fear. Give it the gamma rays and zap it. Let it go. Silence it. Replace fear with trust.
- Pay attention. Always pay attention.
- Think affirmation rather than negation.
- Believe in CAN.
Eleanor also wrote: “Surely, in the light of history, it is more intelligent to hope rather than to fear, to try rather than not to try. For one thing we know beyond all doubt: Nothing has ever been achieved by the person who says, ‘It can’t be done.’”
It can be done. And it will be done if you allow yourself the freedom of choice to make change. Follow the change. Enjoy the change. Be the change.
Nothing that I have written here is new. It has been spoken, written, repeated, and recorded throughout the ages. It has been sermonized and it has been put into song. Repetition of platitudes is not the best teacher. Experience is. Embracing life is. Taking the first step is.
But I somehow seem to need the reminders. And it is empowering to foresee possibility and then feel the zing that coincides believing and knowing deep deep inside. But it involves taking a ride, sometimes on the wild and brave side, to get to the good stuff. Achieving is fantastic, but taking the ride is the true experience. Taking the ride is the change.