Expectations. Yikers. The mere mention of the word has the needle on my perfection-meter bouncing all over the place.
What is an expectation anyway? An expectation is the idea that we hold ourselves or others to an experience or achievement that we believe will, without a doubt, happen in the future. And assumptions are as attached to expectations as ice cream is to the hips. We make the assumption that because of ABC, well . . . DEF surely must follow . . . and so it will merrily go until XYZ gives us a cute curtsy at the final curtain call and we can all go home.
There is a certain, oftentimes hidden, agenda of chronological events — an order Continue reading
Procrastination . . . what is it? And what’s stopping you?
Are you a procrastinator? A big one or a little one? Or a kind of It-Depends one? This is a fantastic TED talk on the topic that is near and dear to all of us. No matter who you are — you are a procrastinator concerning something. Tim Urban really nails it when he breaks procrastination down into its simplest parts. I have watched this talk several times — some of those times being when I was procrastinating about something else.
This inspiring and funny talk is very much worth watching. It will encourage and it will remind you that life is finite and, if there is something in life that really really interests you in doing or learning or completing, you might want to stop procrastinating and get going. In his talk, Tim Urban does not resort to any doomsday tactics that will scare you into getting your stuff together so you can get stuff done. He just says it like it is.
Like I said, inspiring.
Do watch. The entire talk is only 14:03 and it will also make you laugh. At yourself. At life. At deadlines. At how life is. And what a relief this is, what with the upside down times that we are currently living in.
And one last short journaling question for you to add to your notebook . . .
What is one thing that you have been procrastinating on?
I can think of one thing immediately and Tim Urban is right: it is one of those things that has no deadline. No Panic Monster required. Which is why I need Urban’s reminder to evaluate and prioritize.
Is it going back to school? Or learning how to surf? Or learning a new chord progression on your guitar? Or taking better care of your health? Or being nicer to yourself? Or writing that thank you note that is beginning to feel embarrassingly belated? Or finishing that econ paper? Or that project at work that is just riding your sense of peace even when you aren’t at work? So many things and so little time. So I am thinking that I want to make time count for the things that give me a sense of accomplishment, fulfillment, joy, and reward.
Life is a lively and fun event, full of wonderful things to do and to learn and to share. What’s stopping you?